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Fairfield County Catholic Cemeteries of the Diocese of Bridgeport

March 16, 2023

“I am the resurrection and the life; whoever believes in me, even if he dies, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die.”
– Jesus

When Lazarus was sick, Martha and Mary sent word to Jesus, “Master, the one you love is ill.” But Jesus delayed before going to them in Bethany, and Lazarus died. When Jesus finally reached the village, Lazarus had been in the tomb four days.

As John recounts in his Gospel, “When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went to meet him while Mary sat at home. Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

How many of us have felt the same disappointment? How many of us have pleaded and begged for God to heal our sick loved ones, a spouse, a child, or a parent? How many of us have said, “Lord, I have always been loyal to you! I’ve prayed! I’ve tried to live my life the way you want us to live! And yet, where were you? Lord, if you had only been here … and yet you weren’t.”

Such a feeling of disappointment. Such a feeling that God has abandoned you. Many of us will feel that in our heart, but never say it because we’ve been taught we should never talk to God that way.

But God can take it, and being honest with him is a first step toward realizing that his love for you is infinite. Even your anger and rebuke won’t change that love.

He is the one who is pleading, pleading that you come to him for comfort in your pain and misery. In this life, we may never understand the mystery of death or why some people are taken and not others. Or why our fervent and desperate prayers for a sick loved one were not answered the way we wanted them to be. Only in the next life.


Do something special for yourself today. Never underestimate the good that you did caring for another human being when they were most vulnerable.