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Fairfield County Catholic Cemeteries of the Diocese of Bridgeport

April 17, 2024

“Losing a child, no matter what age, makes your heart break in pieces that you never knew existed.”
— Jeannie Walters

A couple is grieving their childIn the movie “Rabbit Hole,” based on a play of the same name by David Lindsay-Abaire, a grieving couple are being torn apart by the death of their 4-year-old son who was killed by a car after he ran out into the street to chase his dog. Becca, his mother, played by Nicole Kidman, and Howie, his father played by Aaron Eckhart, watch as their marriage starts to disintegrate over their different ways of grieving and the bickering that begins to overshadow their relationship.

The movie touches upon the many challenges that a couple faces over the loss of a child and the differences of opinion that can erupt when one tries to hurry the other through the grieving process.

Becca’s brother had died of a drug overdose in his 30s, and she tells her mother that the deaths of their two sons are not alike. At one point, however, Becca asks her mother if the pain ever ends.

And her mother responds: “At some point it becomes bearable. It turns into something you can crawl out from under and carry around like a brick in your pocket. And you even forget it for a while, but then you reach in for whatever reason, and there it is …which can be awful, but not all the time. It’s kind of — not that you like it, exactly, but it’s what you’ve got instead of your son. So you carry it around. And it doesn’t go away.”

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