Phone: 203 742-1450
Fairfield County Catholic Cemeteries of the Diocese of Bridgeport

March 26, 2024

“It’s like grief has been covered over with some kind of blanket. It’s still there, but the sharpest edges are … muffled, sort of. Then, every now and then, I lift the corner of the blanket just to check, and … whoa! Like a knife! I’m not sure that will ever change.”
— Anne Tyler

Phone hung off hookMany of us can remember where we were when President John F. Kennedy died, at least those of us old enough to remember. The same is true for Martin Luther King Jr. and Princess Diana. Tragedies like theirs have a way of indelibly imprinting themselves on our psyche.

The same is true when someone we love dies. We can remember where we were, along with every detail — and those memories are sure to come back now and then on the anniversary of their deaths or when we encounter certain evocative sights, sounds, smells and places.

Many people have lost family members and friends on days that should be celebratory, such as Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s. Such tragedies will overshadow those holidays for years, if not forever.

Ron remembers his sister knocking on the door of his room the night they learned their father had been rushed to the hospital with a massive heart attack. And Bernice was making dinner for her family at their home in St. Petersburg, Florida, on the evening they got the call that her adoptive mother had passed away. How many of us have received such calls in the late hours of the night and hesitated to pick up the phone, thinking, “This can’t be good news.” And it wasn’t.

All those memories are resurrected many times in our lives, even years after our loss, so be prepared because the shock and hardship you initially felt, may return when you least expect it. The intensity of the pain of loss will never diminish, but with the grace of God the frequency will.

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