Phone: 203 742-1450
Fairfield County Catholic Cemeteries of the Diocese of Bridgeport

July 12, 2023

“Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.”
– Earl Grollman

While there is no template for healing and certainly no magic formula when it comes to the loss of a loved one, there are certain road marks that you are making progress in your journey toward healing. There are also signs that you are trapped in what is known as “unresolved grief,” which can last a long time.

Snowy LaneContinuous grief often seems unending with no hope for the future. Even if your progress in the healing journey is at a snail’s pace, that’s OK. Nobody gets rewarded for being first to the finish line, and the truth is that there is no finish line. Your loss will affect you for the rest of your life, but you don’t want it to debilitate you for the rest of your life.

Sometimes, it will seem like you’re walking into winter. But if you keep walking, you will be walking into spring. There are certain things to do, starting with an honest expression of how you feel emotionally. Anything less won’t work. If you’re angry, say so. Tell others your story, especially those who are sympathetic. And don’t hesitate to tell God how you feel. That’s important. Don’t be afraid to tell the truth. Also remember never to feel guilty about feeling better. It does not minimize the love you felt. The person you lost understands and would want you to heal.

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Surviving a loss is never easy, but have trust that one day you will heal.

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